The following success story was written about a veteran in the Veterans Industries program.
Fifty-one years old, donning glasses, a tie, a business shirt and slacks, Veteran will take the stage again tomorrow with his electric guitar. This past Tuesday morning, that guitar was at the top of Veteran’s inventory list—the list of things that are, as he says, “going right in my life,” what he’s thankful for, and what has been brought back into his life by sobriety.
“My electric guitar… I have a vacuum cleaner… My friend showed up for rehearsal yesterday…” were all items on the list.
Veteran has been sober for twenty-two months. He loves music, and in addition to writing and performing his own songs, he will also be the DJ at the next Church dance. Veteran has been attending singles mixers at this Church, and also received a donation from the Church to fix his car.
“If alcohol and drugs are called ‘The Great Remover,’ then recovery must be called ‘The Great Restorer,’” he said.
I met Veteran on his 51st birthday. We started talking about addiction and ended up discussing the novel Robinson Crusoe. Veteran completed his previously unfinished Master’s thesis in English while in treatment at Veterans Industries, and this particular novel was his chosen topic. The completion of this paper was a monumental achievement in Veteran’s life, for reasons revealed in his recovery story.
Veteran had been through Veterans Industries before. The first time he came here was in 1996. After his time in the program, Veteran remained sober for a year and a half, was in a state of relapse for about 2 years, and was sober again for another five and a half years. His final relapse occurred when he first attempted to complete his thesis—the culminating work of his graduate education.
“My girlfriend and I broke up, I had gone back to cab driving full time and was driving too much… six days a week. I didn’t have a real strong program,” he said.
For the second time in his life, Veteran came into the Domiciliary to turn his life around.
Veteran explained that he relates to Crusoe in that he often feels oppressed by any number of occurrences in his daily life, and by what has happened in the past. These triggers– moments of sadness in the morning just after waking, or disrespectful comments from co-workers– would once get the best of Veteran. But now he knows how to avoid a relapse: He takes action against those feelings.
“Knowledge isn’t enough,” he said. “Knowing your triggers is not enough. Action is key.”
Veteran told me that action can involve anything, from going to a meeting, prayer, taking direction from a mentor, or writing a list of those “things that are going right in my life.” These actions may seem simple, but action is what keeps Veteran healthy, and what has made him successful so far.
In addition to his recreational activities, Veteran worked as an Americorps volunteer at Nine Star, where he helped people in need of employment education services. He is now a substitute teacher and continues to succeed in work and in life.
***Names were changed to protect the privacy of our veterans.